Tips on improving your self-esteem

Ⅰ. Tips on improving your self-esteem. (为了积极乐观的自尊感！)

1. Avoid saying negative things to yourself, such as "I am incompetent", "I am a fool", "I am a failure", and "I am unattractive". etc.

There’s no general criterion for judging the value of a human being; he makes all kinds of mistakes and has weaknesses. Therefore, admit that you make mistakes and have flaws, and accept yourself as you are.

1. 节制使用无能，没有价值，傻瓜，失败者，笨蛋，无魅力，没有用，等否定自己的语言。

你不会对你喜欢的人使用否定性的，或是贬低性的语言。也不要对自己这样。就像对待你最好的朋友一样，温柔温和地对待自己，宽容自己。对于判断一个人的价值并没有一般化的标准，人总会失误都有缺点。自我认识到我们都会失误都是有缺点的存在，即使不完全也要接受容纳自己。

2. Separate your action from your personality.

A man is not stupid because he did a stupid thing. He is not a bad person because he did a bad thing. Try to improve your action but do not call your personality into question.

2. 将行动和人格分开看。

即使做出了愚蠢的行动也不代表这个人就是愚蠢的人。即使做了不太好的行动也不能代表这个人就是坏人。改善行动，不要将自身的人格当成问题来看待。即使有一件或是几件错误的行动，也不要将自己的人格当成问题来看待。

3. Praise yourself for a good thing you've done.

Do not be too fussy about praising yourself. Praise yourself at least once a day. Praise yourself for what you've accomplished today.

3. 表扬自己做的好的事情。

不要吝啬表扬自己的行为。一天最少一次要表扬自己。对于今天一天做的事情，要表扬自己。即使没有什么值得表扬自己的事情的话，也要对于费心努力的自己给予表扬。

4. List the reasons why you have so far denied and criticized yourself.

Examine what mistakes and flaws you can throw away or think about how to improve them in detail. In this way gradually turn your weaknesses into strengths.

4. 列举到现在为止拒绝自己贬低自己的理由。

仔细查看那些理由中哪些错误和缺点是可以改善的，并且思考可以改善的方法。利用这种方法一步一步将弱点变为优点。要记住你具备着无极限的学习能力。

5. List at least ten of your strengths and abilities.

They should not necessarily be your own excellent characteristics. Read the list of your strengths every day and when you think about something new, add it to the list.

5. 最少列举10项自身的优点和能力。

即使不是只有自己具备的出众的能力也可以。例如，我很擅长听别人的话语。我对我负责的事情尽全力。我很擅长跑步。每天阅读列举的优点，要是有新的发现也要添加上。